I gave the guy in my previous post (he seemed perfect on paper) another chance. Let’s call him Mr P. Mr P and I were hanging out a lot as friends. It was just nice to just hang out with someone I really clicked with and it took my mind off the job hunting for a bit.
He worked in Canary Wharf and he asked me to meet him after work for dinner. Of course I said yes, it’s not a date , I was just having dinner with a friend. Dinner was great and we went for a walk afterwards. Then all of a sudden he grabbed me a kissed me. I was a bit shocked but at the same time I didn’t stop him, I saw fireworks.Over the next few weeks we went on a lot more dates and although I had to get used to his public displays of affection I felt like he wanted to be with me. He was over his ex girlfriend and I didn’t feel like I was a rebound.
Mr P had to take a business trip to Spain for a week and we talked everyday while he was there. Everything was going great.
When he came back I couldn’t wait to see him but due to his work schedule I didn’t see him until two weeks later. He asked me come to his house and I ended up meeting his whole family. It was a bit strange as he introduced me to them as his friend. He didn’t faze me as we weren’t not that serious, we were just dating and seeing how things go.
After meeting his family I didn’t see him for a while but we did speak everyday however I could sense something was a bit off with him.
I asked him to meet me at Starbucks so we can talk. When he arrived looked like he was not happy to see me. I just got straight to the point. I asked why he had been distant with me since he came back from Spain as I thought we were dating and getting know each other. He then proceeded to tell me that he wasn’t sure about me and we were not dating. He felt like things were going too fast and he wanted to take things slow.
Wow. Just wow. I really didn’t know what to say to him after that. After sitting there in silence for a while I said he can take all the time he needed and got up and left.
I don’t know why I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I felt like I was opening up to him, I felt comfortable with him and after all that he is not sure about me.
I give up *sigh*.